Written by Brendan Holland
Family is our foundation, shaping who we are and how we navigate the world. For me, my family is the driving force behind everything I do, and what gets me out of bed of a morning. As a husband and father, I’ve come to understand that being the best version of myself isn’t just for me, it is also for them.
We often inherit patterns from those who came before us, the beliefs, behaviours, and ways of being that are passed down, sometimes without question. These generational cycles can include family traditions, but they can also include pain, trauma, and limiting beliefs. The moment we become aware of these cycles, we have a choice. To continue them or to be the change maker in our family line. What will you choose?
I believe in choosing change. I believe in doing the work to heal, grow, and transform so that my kids inherit a healthier, more empowered legacy. This certainly doesn’t mean being perfect, by no means am I perfect… though it means being intentional. It means looking at the parts of myself I’d rather avoid and choosing to grow for the sake of the ones I love most. It means showing my sons and daughters what it looks like to face life with courage, vulnerability, and authenticity.
However, ending generational cycles is no small task. It requires reflection, forgiveness, and a commitment to breaking patterns that no longer serve. For me, breathwork has been a powerful tool in this journey. It has helped me process emotions I had no idea I was carrying and has allowed me to show up for my family with more presence and love.
When I take care of myself, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, I’m better equipped to guide my kids and hold space for my wife.
Being the best you can be for your family should not mean sacrificing yourself. It means prioritising growth so you can pour from a full cup. It means creating a home environment where love, respect, and authenticity thrive, It means an environment where our kids feel safe to be themselves and where they see first-hand what it means to live aligned with your values.
Family is the ultimate legacy. By choosing to grow, heal, and end the cycles that don’t serve, we give our loved ones the greatest gift of all. A new foundation to build on, one rooted in love, strength, and freedom.
And that is how we change the world.
One family at a time.